Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Friendship for the sake of Allah abides in purity and sealed with modesty (hayaa’)



In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

Friendship that abides in purity and sealed with modesty is a unique relationship qualified for those who have mutual love for the sake of Allah. It is a relationship build on Islamic standards of purity and modesty which can protect us from being deceived and destroyed slowly by the poisonous arrow that can ruin our dignity as true muslims. It is also a relationship which makes us aware of our limits as a believer when we interact with someone who is non-mahram , avoiding fitnah and closing the doors that lead to fornication of the eyes, ears, tongue, heart. Moreover,it is a friendship that will be rewarded by Allah. However to reach the stage of pure love only for the sake of Allah is difficult. Only few people can attain such a friendship, that is why Allah rewards them highly for their good deed .

Mu`adh (bin Jabal) (radhiallahu 'anhu ) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said, "Allah, the Exalted, has said: `For those who love one another for the sake of My Glory, there will be seats of light (on the Day of Resurrection), and they will be envied by the Prophets and martyrs". [Tirmidhi]

Abu Hurayrah (radhiallahu 'anhu ) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said, "On the day of resurrection, Allah, the Exalted, will say, ‘Where are those who have mutual love for the sake of My Glory? Today I shall shelter them in My shade when there will be no shade except Mine." [Reported by Muslim]

Friendship for the sake of Allah abides in purity as it is based upon a sincere purpose for seeking the pleasure of Allah which brings about the love of Allah for the slave. Abu Hurayrah (radhiallahu 'anhu ) narrated that Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said, 'A man went to visit a brother of his in another village. Allah sent an Angel to wait for him on the road. When the man came, the Angel asked him, 'Where do you intend to go?' He said, 'I am going to visit a brother of mine who lives in this village.' The Angel asked, 'Have you done him any favor (for which you are now seeking repayment)?' He said, 'No, I just love him for the sake of Allah.' The Angel told him, 'I am a messenger to you from Allah, sent to tell you that He (Allah) Loves you as you love your brother for His sake.' [Saheeh Muslim]

Friendship for the sake of Allah which is sealed with hayaa’ (modesty) will be protected by Allah as Allah loves hayaa’.
" Surely Allah (is One who) has hayaa’ and is the Protector. He loves hayaa’ and people who cover each others faults."(Bukhari)
Hayaa’ is one of the characteristics of Islam so as believers we should have the quality in us.
"Every way of life has a innate character. The character of Islam is hayaa’." Or "Every Deen has an innate character. The character of Islam is modesty (hayaa’)." (Abu Dawood)
Hayaa’ brings goodness as beloved Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Hayaa’ does not bring anything except good." (Bukhari)
Hayaa’ is a very clear indication of our Iman. As the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) had mentioned to the Ansar who was condemning is brother about being shy: "Leave him, for Hayaa’ is (a part) of Faith." (Bukhari)
And hayaa’ leads us to PARADISE. As the Prophet ( sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam )told us: "Hayaa’ comes from Iman; Iman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire." (Bukhari)

Let us try to attain a pure friendship sealed with modesty for the sake of Allah by keep seeking Allah’s guidance through our daily prayers.

“When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calls on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe in Me: that they may walk in the right way”. ( Translation of Surah : Al-Baqarah 2:186)

The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Hayaa’ and trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them." (Baihaqi)

Wallahualam bi shawab

Friday, September 11, 2009

friendship for the sake of Allah


A true Muslim
is one who always does good to other people
and the most touching part is
never expecting anything in return
as the friendship is sealed for the sake of Allah....

Sealing A Friendship For The Sake Of Allah



Assalamualaikum my beloved brothers and sisters,

Sealing a friendship for the sake of Allah is based on true bond of love that exists between two people above worldly motives, gains and purposes. It is a relationship based on compassion, empathy, selflessness, honesty, trustworthiness and sincerity. It is indeed a high level of piety filled with genuine support and helping one another just for the sake of Allah. We must bear in mind that only those who love one another truly for the sake of Allah are ones who will earn a blessed reward from Allah.
Narrated by Mu`adh Bin Jabal [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said, "Allah, the Exalted, has said: “For those who love one another for the sake of My Glory, there will be seats of light (on the Day of Standing), and they will be envied by the Prophets and Martyrs".
[Al-Tirmidhi]

Ibn Abbas said: "No one may taste true faith except by this (i.e. building relationships for Allah's sake), even if his prayers and fasts are many. People have come to build their relationship around the concerns of the world, but it will not benefit them in any way."

Sealing a friendship for the sake of Allah is always a responsibility and never an opportunity as it is more than an ordinary friendship. In friendship for the sake of Allah we have sharing and giving, loving and caring, forgiving and respecting, Living a life overflowing with love for the sake of Allah, helping one another in good deeds with a selfless attitude and without causing hurt and displeasure, joining together to uphold the dignity of Islam in peace and harmonious way, bringing one another closer to Allah to seek His Mercy and Love always.

A scholar has said: "To seal a friendship for Allah's sake indicates the obligation of establishing relationships of love and trust for His sake; this is a friendship for the sake of Allah. It also indicates that simple affection is not enough here; indeed what is meant is a love based upon alliance. This entails assistance, honour, and respect. It means being with those whom you love both in word and deed."
Narrated by Abu Dharr Ghifaari [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said: "The best of deeds is to love for the sake of Allah and to hate for the sake of Allah".
[Sunan Abu Dawood: 4582]

Are we worried when our brothers or sisters face difficulties? Do we support our friends’ welfare and do we pray for them when they face adversity? Do we advice our lost sisters who expose their a’uraat, and our lost brothers to restrain from sinful lust. Allah made the believers as brothers and sisters so that they have mercy upon one another; so that they love one another; so that they help one another and support one another. This is how Muslims should be.

Anas Bin Malik [may Allah be pleased with him] narrated that a desert Arab said to Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him]: “When will be the Last Hour?” Allah's Messenger said: “What preparation have you made for it?” Thereupon he said: “I love Allah and His Messenger”. Thereupon he (Allah's Messenger) said: “You will be with the one you love”.
[Sahih Muslim: Book 32, Number 6378]


May Allah forgive us and place us in the group of people who truly love each other for the sake of Allah and May Allah forgive us and bless our friendship for the sake of Allah

Imam Shafi'i :"I accompanied the Sufi people and I received from them three knowledges: ... how to speak; .. how to treat people with leniency and a soft heart... and they... guided me in the ways of Sufism." [Kashf al-Khafa, 'Ajluni, vol. 1, p 341.]

Imam Ghazzali : "I knew verily that Sufis are the seekers in Allah's Way, and their conduct is the best conduct, and their way is the best way, and their manners are the most sanctified. They have cleaned their hearts from other than Allah and they have made them as pathways for rivers to run receiving knowledge of the Divine Presence." [al-Munqidh, p. 131].


Still learning to be a good friend for the sake of Allah.

Lahaula wala quwwata illa billahil aliyul azeem

With love and duas always
Sister Nur Sakinah
25th August 2009

Monday, July 20, 2009

Is our friendship qualified as friendship for the sake of Allah?



Assalamualaikum my beloved brothers and sisters,

Is our friendship qualified as friendship for the sake of Allah?

Friendship for the sake of Allah is based on true love that exists between two people above worldly motives or gains. It is based on compassion, empathy, selflessness, trustworthiness and sincerity. It is a high level of piety filled with genuine support and helping one another just for the sake of Allah. Only those who love one another truly for the sake of Allah are ones who will earn a blessed reward from Allah.

We admit that we love one another for the sake of Allah, but in reality we are not. We are not worried if our brothers or sisters are in trouble, we do not help, support or show them our care. There is no yearning desire when we did not meet our friends for some time, we don’t care if our lost sisters expose their a’uraat, we do not advise our lost brothers to restrain from sinful lust, we are not bothered about our friends’ welfare and we do not pray for them when they face adversity. So, is our friendship qualified as friendship for the sake of Allah?

Narrated by Mu`adh Bin Jabal [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said, "Allah, the Exalted, has said: “For those who love one another for the sake of My Glory, there will be seats of light (on the Day of Standing), and they will be envied by the Prophets and Martyrs".
[Al-Tirmidhi]

Narrated by Abu Dharr Ghifaari [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said: "The best of deeds is to love for the sake of Allah and to hate for the sake of Allah".
[Sunan Abu Dawood: 4582]


Anas Bin Malik [may Allah be pleased with him] narrated that a desert Arab said to Allah's Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him]: “When will be the Last Hour?” Allah's Messenger said: “What preparation have you made for it?” Thereupon he said: “I love Allah and His Messenger”. Thereupon he (Allah's Messenger) said: “You will be with the one you love”.
[Sahih Muslim: Book 32, Number 6378]

And as Ibn Abbas said: "No one may taste true faith except by this (i.e. building relationships for Allah's sake), even if his prayers and fasts are many. People have come to build their relationship around the concerns of the world, but it will not benefit them in any way."

A scholar has said: "To seal a friendship for Allah's sake indicates the obligation of establishing relationships of love and trust for His sake; this is a friendship for the sake of Allah. It also indicates that simple affection is not enough here; indeed what is meant is a love based upon alliance. This entails assistance, honour, and respect. It means being with those whom you love both in word and deed."

May Allah forgive us and place us in the group of people who truly love each other for the sake of Allah.

Lahaula wala quwwata illa billahil aliyul azeem

With love and duas always
Sister Nur Sakinah
20/07/09

Monday, May 18, 2009

This is forever friendship. Thank you Allah for this forever friendship.



Sometimes in life, you find a special friend;
Someone who changes your life just by being part of it,
Someone who makes you smile;
someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you that
There really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it.
This is forever friendship.
When you're down, and the world seems dark and empty,
Your forever friend lifts you up in spirit
and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full.
Your forever friend gets you through the hard times,
The sad times, and the confused times,
If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows.
If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on.
Your forever friend holds your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay.
And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete,
Because you need not worry…….
You have a forever friend for life, and forever has no end.
As we become brothers and sisters in Allah’s everlasting love……….
InsyaAllah………………...



Buat Sahabat
"Aku menyayangi sahabatku dengan segenap jiwaku.Sahabat yang baik adalah yang seiring denganku dan menjaga nama baikku ketika aku hidup atau selepas mati.Kuhulurkan tangan kepada sahabatku untuk berkenalan kerana aku akan berasa senang.Semakin ramai sahabat, aku semakin percaya diri.Aku selalu berharap mendapat sahabat sejati yang tak luntur dalam suka atau duka.Jika aku dapat, aku akan setia padanya- IMAM SHAFIE

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

A Diamond

FRIENDSHIP IN ALLAH’S LOVE



My special thanks to Alif Music team, for creating such a remarkable site for friendship in Islam. May Allah guide us with His Light of Truth and with His Enduring Love and care. I would like to share this poem with all the wonderful brothers and sister in Alif Music.
May we keep the passion of friendship in Islam glowing for the sake of Allah………..

In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Gracious.
FRIENDSHIP IN ALLAH’S LOVE
The glowing passion of our friendship in Allah’s love
Binding our hearts with words of trust,
Bringing our hearts together in an enduring nature
Together painting the song of love
In the canvas of friendship
Spreading the colours of life
And following the rhythm of our hearts

The glowing passion of friendship in Allah’s love
Binding our hearts with words of wisdom,
In understanding and honesty
Filing our lives with joy, grace and beauty
Brightening up our lives with
With the colours of the rainbow
Making our friendship a great blessing
Enduring in the mist of calamities

The glowing passion of friendship in Allah’s love
Binding our hearts with words of inspirations
Enlighten our hearts in comfort and warmness
Sharing joy and tears or lending a shoulder to cry on
Lifting up our spirit through giving and living
Love growing thru sharing and forgiving

Although we are miles away apart
Nothing can keep our hearts apart
In the glowing passion of friendship in Allah’s love

nur sakinah thomas
5pm, 7th February, 2009